Love, Sex & Marriage…

November 17, 2010 Leave a comment

The topic was very well discussed in the youth retreat led by Mr. Philip Cherian held on Aug 15th, 2007 @ St.Thomas Church, R.C.Puram, Hyderabad. Philip Cherian is the director of Formations India , he has been a source of inspiration for many youths and his talks relate to his personal experience. Coming to the topic discussed in the meeting, he classified love as three types

  • If- Love
  • Because- Love
  • Full Stop –Love

In ‘If love’ a person will love a person if he/she has or possesses something for eg:// some girls when they talk would say like, I would love him if he had a guitar in hand, and if he had a Yamaha motor bike. All the if conditions.

The second type of love is because Love, where a person loves his/her partner because he/she is son of a millionaire, or he/she is a famous personality,etc..

The third type is the Full stop love, where you don’t find a single instance of both the partners quarrelling with each other. There is a mutual understanding with each other and one doesn’t play a blame game… What advantages one has when he/she loves full stop is there is no chance of taking advantage of the opposite sex for what he/she has done in the past. What I mean was the person trust his partner and knows and believes that both are living a true and Christian life.

There were also examples given on how people get into wrong things and end up in trouble. Philip Cherian gave an example of a guy who flirted around at the age of 19 and kept finding new girl friends till the age of 29… What he wanted to emphasize from this example was the guy wasted 10 years running around different girl friends for 10 years and messed up his life. There is something we can take from this example, it’s like instead of wasting time for all this, he should have spent his time for things which were necessary to do at that age for a better career and a true Christian life.

He also gave an example of a guy who was just in school, the small kid came and asked him is it good to have a girl friend?? And Philip cherian’s reply was yes to that…Teens pls concentrate here.. Philip Cherian told yes to have a girl friend..thats something strange right?? Anyways, he advised the guy to have friends who are girls and have many girl friends instead of only one…the age factor should always be considered when you think something like this is gonna happen in your life..Is it the right time..or is it the right person or is it ok to have a boy/girl frnd at this age. . (now maybe too early to comment on this.. There was also advice for the young generation, he said it was OK  to be attracted to one person. It’s a human tendency, he also told that it’s legitimate…Being attractive is fine but don’t get addicted to that attraction and it can become lust. I hope it was clear in here… he also told that it’s good to dress properly and have a good physique. Human body is a gift of God and we need to be fit and keep away from too much of junk and things like that…He also emphasized that it’s always a better option to set your goals and decide the age when you are going to get married.

Love is true but don't be fooled.


Your thoughts, suggestions are most welcome….




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World of the generous…

October 18, 2010 Leave a comment

World of the generous gets larger and larger but the world of the stingy gets smaller and smaller
I was watching the sermon by Pastor Brian Houston, the sermon was about getting the momentum in life and how we can go about changing the world around us. We often become stingy and then start to cut back from the reality. We do not want to move forward as there is worry about the future. I noted down few points from the sermon and I hope will beusefulfor each oneof us to get back our momentum.

Positive words and outlookProverbs 12:25(New International Version)
25 An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.
Have a positive outlook andkind words would definitely cheer us up.

Life giving partnershipsProverbs 13:20(New International Version)
20 He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.
Never ever walk away from partnerships. Be there and provide the needed guidance to the one in need.

A commitment to community and people.Hebrews 10:25(New International Version)
25Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.
Continue to encourage one other and reach-out to the community and people.

Sacrificial commitment and volunteer. Timothy 6:17(New International Version)
17Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment.
If we want see more momentum, we should be ready to give, willing to share and help carry the load. Don’t get stingy , don’t just be there. Stay in the house and carry the load.

Believe in the cause. John 18:37(New International Version)
37″You are a king, then!” said Pilate.Jesus answered, “You are right in saying I am a king. In fact, for this reason I was born, and for this I came into the world, to testify to the truth. Everyone on the side of truth listens to me.”
Youthful dreams and visionsBe daring enough and keep dreaming. Be generouswith ur words, and don’t just drawback, try to extend urself.

God bless you!

Yours in Christ,
Varghese Thomas

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Once upon a time…

October 18, 2010 2 comments

Once upon a time.. Oh wait, is this how all stories start? 🙂

Its hard for someone to go through trials and difficulties especially when you fall in love. What is love? Is this a feeling or something. A famous speaker once said that it’s hard to love continuously for a month. There would then be differences and it’s not the same love anymore. Nowadays, we hear about love stories. There is nothing different from what it used to be. People fell in love and got married. Some have gone through a lot of pain and difficult. In developing countries, it’s still a big thing. We hear of families not happy with the decisions their children make and even have gone to the extreme. Their thinking is radical and it may not be the right solution.

I believe family plays a vital role in future of the guy/girl in love. There are cases where the guy/girl eloped and also cases where girl/guy talk to their families and make it a arranged marriage. Don’t just think its over if things don’t work out. There maybe someone else for ya.. Take time to and think of what’s good for you. Live life to the fullest. God bless!!

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Talking about Spirit 105 Encouragement

November 5, 2009 Leave a comment


Spirit 105.3 Encouragement

Thanks to the spirit family for all the encouragement, I’m gonna note this down one by one
Date 11-04-2009
Being like Jesus is not about keeping the rules, going to church, and tithing. It’s about knowing His forgiveness, and committing acts of grace and mercy on a consistent basis. It’s about living a life that values all people. And it’s about having a heart of full surrender to the will of our Father. Be like Jesus. You were saved for it! — Joe Stowell
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October 10, 2009 Leave a comment
Friendship is not about “I m sorry “ its about “abbe teri galti hai “ 

Friendship is not about “I m there for u” or “I missed u “ it’s about “kahan marr gaya saale “

Friendship is not about “I understand “ its about “sab teri wajah se hua manhus“

Friendship is not about “I care for u “ its about “kamino tumhe chhod ke kahan jaunga “

Friendship is not about “I m happy for ur success “its about “chal party de saale“

Friendship is not about “I love that girl“ its about “saalo izzat se dekho tumhari bhabhi hain “

Friendship is not about “R u coming for outing tomorrow “ its about “ nautanki nahi, hum kal bahar ja rahe hai “

Friendship is not about “Get well soon “its about “Itna piyega toh yehi hoga“

Friendship is not about “All the best for ur career“ its about “ bahut hua, abhi toh switch mar saale“ 

fwd from a friend 🙂
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