Love, Sex & Marriage…
The topic was very well discussed in the youth retreat led by Mr. Philip Cherian held on Aug 15th, 2007 @ St.Thomas Church, R.C.Puram, Hyderabad. Philip Cherian is the director of Formations India , he has been a source of inspiration for many youths and his talks relate to his personal experience. Coming to the topic discussed in the meeting, he classified love as three types
- If- Love
- Because- Love
- Full Stop –Love
In ‘If love’ a person will love a person if he/she has or possesses something for eg:// some girls when they talk would say like, I would love him if he had a guitar in hand, and if he had a Yamaha motor bike. All the if conditions.
The second type of love is because Love, where a person loves his/her partner because he/she is son of a millionaire, or he/she is a famous personality,etc..
The third type is the Full stop love, where you don’t find a single instance of both the partners quarrelling with each other. There is a mutual understanding with each other and one doesn’t play a blame game… What advantages one has when he/she loves full stop is there is no chance of taking advantage of the opposite sex for what he/she has done in the past. What I mean was the person trust his partner and knows and believes that both are living a true and Christian life.
There were also examples given on how people get into wrong things and end up in trouble. Philip Cherian gave an example of a guy who flirted around at the age of 19 and kept finding new girl friends till the age of 29… What he wanted to emphasize from this example was the guy wasted 10 years running around different girl friends for 10 years and messed up his life. There is something we can take from this example, it’s like instead of wasting time for all this, he should have spent his time for things which were necessary to do at that age for a better career and a true Christian life.
He also gave an example of a guy who was just in school, the small kid came and asked him is it good to have a girl friend?? And Philip cherian’s reply was yes to that…Teens pls concentrate here.. Philip Cherian told yes to have a girl friend..thats something strange right?? Anyways, he advised the guy to have friends who are girls and have many girl friends instead of only one…the age factor should always be considered when you think something like this is gonna happen in your life..Is it the right time..or is it the right person or is it ok to have a boy/girl frnd at this age. . (now maybe too early to comment on this.. There was also advice for the young generation, he said it was OK to be attracted to one person. It’s a human tendency, he also told that it’s legitimate…Being attractive is fine but don’t get addicted to that attraction and it can become lust. I hope it was clear in here… he also told that it’s good to dress properly and have a good physique. Human body is a gift of God and we need to be fit and keep away from too much of junk and things like that…He also emphasized that it’s always a better option to set your goals and decide the age when you are going to get married.
Your thoughts, suggestions are most welcome….